It’s a preschool day for my son and my husband volunteered to do drop-off this morning. I stepped out of the shower and into the rareness of a quiet house. A brief sigh of relief was quickly ebbed by the thousands of “should-do” thoughts that came rushing into my mind. As mothers, we have but few moments to ourselves so they must be used ever so wisely. I should unpack those bags still sitting in the living room from our trip last week, I should start a load of laundry and definitely get those dishes done, I should turn on some music and clean (you know REALLY clean) this house, I should water the flowers and pull those weed, not to mention everything I should be doing for our business. I’ve got messages to follow up with and notifications on social media blinking at me eagerly waiting to be opened, along with a list of phone calls to be made. Then one tiny voice in my head whispers, “or write”. Write; the one thing God has been so patiently and lovingly nudging me to do for the last few years and the one thing that always seems to come last. We all have one thing; that one thing we love doing but it always takes a back seat to the many “have-to” moments in our day. Maybe yours is reading or praying. Maybe it’s creating artwork or music. Or maybe yours is just sitting quietly in His presence. Whatever your one thing is, if you’re like me you don’t let yourself do it very often. Why is it that the things that feed our spirit the most we all too often give the least amount of space in our lives? Maybe life just gets busy, maybe we’re so busy pouring into others we neglect ourselves or maybe it goes even deeper. Maybe we don’t even feel worthy of this precious time with our One Thing.
I so frequently find myself striving for perfection in every area of life that instead of excelling in one aspect, I feel like a failure in all areas. I’m not sure how many roles you play in this world but most of us are juggling several hats. Yours might be employee, student, daughter and friend. Mine are wife, mother, daughter, friend and business owner. Each one takes up a vast majority of time and when you add them all together, sometimes it feels overwhelming, especially when you’re trying to be “the best” at each one. I blame social media and the Pinterest mom generation for this need to excel at our daily tasks. What else are we to do? We’re constantly bombarded with images of the mom who just made her kid a snack of fruits and vegetables in the shape of a train (how in the world?!!), the crocheted blanket someone crafted up for a friend’s new baby (while you just grabbed a gift card last minute) and the beautiful spread of (yes, all organic) foods the wife loving prepared for her husband, while you realize it’s 5pm and haven’t a thing in mind to make. Yes, I blame social media because that’s where we see this portray of perfection but that’s not really where the blame rests. There is an enemy who would love to defeat us at every turn and if he can use a picture of a fruit and veggie train to do it, he will. The problem isn’t everyone else and what they excel at, the problem is us. The problem is me buying the lie that I’m supposed to be the best at everything I do. What if we’re just supposed to shine in our One Thing? What if the very thing you put off till last is the one thing you need to focus on the most?
So I’m writing. Today, I choose my one thing. I choose to quiet all the other voices pulling for my attention and focus solely where God is leading my heart. The beauty of this life is that yours isn’t the same as mine. Maybe you need to go focus on making baby blankets or cooking dinner because that is where God has called you. Maybe pouring into your children or your husband is exactly where He wants you to be. Or perhaps you are reading this on your lunch break and God has called you to invest in your career. Then excel. Do what it takes to make that your One Thing and be the very best at it, but don’t try to be the best at all the things. Staying in your own lane and keeping your eyes on the path uniquely planned for you can be one of the most difficult challenges in this life. Their grass may look greener but it will never feel as soft as what is planted beneath your own feet. So I’ll do my one thing and you do yours and together we can create a beautiful garden.
Ephesians 2:10, 1 Peter 5:8, Proverbs 16:3, Proverbs 3:5-6, Luke 10:42